Modern Day Relationships

 We like to fit in like a puzzle piece. We consider ourselves a uniquely made piece waiting to be placed where we are meant to fit. But people do so much to fit in. They change in all ways possible to become a part-an integral being of significance among others of significance.

We are social beings. We are surrounded by people all the time. We love making a connection that matters. We especially like to show others how good we are. What if the approach should have been different? What if instead of trying to impress we just showed up as we are? Many times we doubt that we are not good enough. Some are humbled by this behavior, and some sabotage their confidence but we continue to be. Eventually, we all find people and places where we fit in just right. As we keep on moving and making adjustments, we reach somewhere we can finally relax without the anxiety of trying to be someone. We are already who we are required to be but in our head, we imagine someone who is better. Our ego forms an image of self we love based on the influence of whatever we would like to take inspiration from. Much of our relationships are rooted in the satisfaction of ego. An endless attempt to satisfy the hunger to become. This blinds us from seeing and we don't want to notice anyone including ourselves. Much like all modern-day approaches, a bottomless pit. Just keep on falling to endless desires and lusts of life. Even when realization hits there is no rock bottom to stop you from where you can start better again. 

People are power. An individual can be manipulated in any way possible but when that one individual has someone to connect with, the reality becomes different. It is just not a need for some rudimentary concept that we exist in a society. The very life gets its meaning from being among people both like-minded and not. We all know but don't internalize the fact that if just a singular person was living that person would not have knowledge of it that it was alive and living. It would be much like sitting in darkness with eyes open. It would simply not make a difference.

People are so irritated by someone who begs to differ from their perspective. People even begin to hate such people with a motive and passion. But understanding this is important, as much as support helps you grow so does protest. People are smart with limits. No one is ever so knowledgeable that they got all the answers and never so wise that they commit no wrong. It is good to keep like-minded people near to make life sweet and for shared experience but like them people who are against you are equally important. It helps us to receive vital learnings in life about people and their behavior. They broaden our life exposing us to emotions and experiences which ultimately help us develop into stronger beings. So one may hate those who are not for them but they usually help build much required characteristic traits in life.

There is much rise in individualistic approach in life. Independence, freedom, and other big words are thrown around to justify emotional laziness. People don't want to face hardship of any kind, only to freeze solid upon facing one. People are never truly alone. We are among strangers who are sometimes warm and sometimes cold. Not only from our own experience but also from the history of mankind we can clearly see that living has its own risk. Living comes with uncertainty and problems. So running from people and relationships is just cowardice. No problem gets solved by running away from it but it gets solved by getting involved in it. People are scary, running into doom it is said. Well, we are all together here on earth. Earth is the boat that we are all on. How are you making a difference?  

We don't need much to be happy and we know it. Unfortunately, we are plagued by business agendas and price tags. Relationships should be built on trust. Without trust, no relationship would ever work, not even businesses. But trust has been made trivial. Lacking a vital emotional trait is somehow considered common. Trust is the soul of a relationship, don't know how someone can expect to function without it. 

Relationships are not easy to maintain. In every changing situation, an upgrade is needed to maintain a relationship. A relationship can go through so many changes and phases. Some relationships come to an abrupt end and some are carried to the grave. It is such a strange thing but relationships that need to form, are formed, and that is destroyed, gets destroyed any how no matter what was done for the relationship. But for whatever time it continued, it has its own significance.